I am a mom and I will NOT let the state make medical decisions for my children

A friend of mine posted this on FB.

If you’re not usually inclined to click the link, I would ask that, just this once, you do. Please.

In case you decide not to, here’s a pull quote:

Buried in a sweeping anti-abortion bill is a provision that would immunize a doctor who discovers that a baby will be born with a devastating condition and deliberately withholds that information from his patient. That’s right. If the bill passes, a doctor who opposes abortion could decide to lie about the results of your blood tests, your ultrasound, your cvs or your amnio.

This is not about being pro-life or pro-choice.

This is NOT about abortion.

This is about stripping away a mother and her partner’s rights to make the best decision for their baby.

With each of my three pregnancies I had what I refer to as “the super scary blood tests”. The tests look for a variety of markers that would indicate a whole list of things that could be wrong with your baby- spina bifida, Down’s syndrome, etc. And, with each of my pregnancies, I arrived at the anatomy ultrasound (the check to make sure the baby’s heart, brain, lungs and other vital organs are forming appropriately) a little nervous, wanting only to hear that my baby was perfect. Each time I told my doctor, “If there’s anything wrong, there’s not a decision to be made. I only want to be prepared.”

Did I mention that I’m pro-choice?

I am.

And my choice would have been to continue with the pregnancy.

Sometimes those tests and ultrasounds come back and there’s nothing to be done but hope and pray and prepare yourself.

Or make a decision.

Sometimes there are medical conditions the baby needs you to prepare for. Specialists and pediatricians need to be on hand for the birth so that when s/he enters the world, s/he has a fighting chance at survival.

Being completely blindsided at birth by a baby’s medical condition could be tragedy for a family. Can you imagine? Thinking your baby is going to be perfect and beautiful and healthy and then having him or her die? Or suffer life-long consequences for a condition that could have been helped if only you knew? My heart aches at the thought and I’m filled with unintelligble rage and sadness.


Why does the state of Kansas and Governor Brownback insist on stripping the rights of parents? Of stripping the rights of a newborn? Isn’t that the whole point of this damn bill? To choose life? What good is forcing someone to choose life if parents can’t make sure that their baby has a quality of life? How is that in the best interest of ANYONE?

Or does the Sunflower State only care about babies and people when they’re in fetus form?


One thought on “I am a mom and I will NOT let the state make medical decisions for my children

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